This presentation really got everyone talking. The survey spurred some thoughts about traditional roles in relationships versus a more egalitarian relationship. I think that the survey probably needed to be a little more specific in the way the questions were asked because there are so many different types of family structures. We have a lot of overlap in the chores that my family does. My mom works longer hours than my dad does so despite my dad’s subpar cooking skills, he had to step up to the plate and handle some of the cooking in the house. My brother and I grew up doing the exact same chores. We both did the weeding and the dish washing. No work should be considered “woman’s work” or a “man’s job.” It should be about compromising and doing what’s best for the family in that situation.
Our class is certainly leaning towards a more egalitarian view of relationship roles. I thought that it was interesting how the main couple in the video we watched were portrayed. The man was shown as the nurturer, and the woman was depicted as the provider. I realize what they were trying to portray to the public, but it’s funny how they had to make them completely opposite of the stereotypical roles. It’s as if they had to do a complete role reversal in order to prove to society that this could work. I would have preferred to see something where they were equally helping each other with whatever task they were performing. That video made it look like it was all for show.
The roles in a relationship are dynamic not static. They can and will change over the course of the relationship. Assuming Abe and I stay together, while I am in medical school, he will be the provider, but when I get out it will be more balanced. Perhaps when we have kids, he will cut back on his hours and be the more of the stay-at-home dad. Of course this is hard to determine now, but I know that we will compromise. He loves to cook, and I love to clean. You have to be willing to compromise in a relationship if you want it to work.
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